INTERESTING FACTS ABOUT GALS!!!

Observation:

Guys never notice differences in their friend's appearance unless the difference is too obvious (like a very poor haircut that leaves the scalp like a partially mowed lawn). But with girls, it's not the case... Try walking to your friend who is a girl (the phrase girl friend avoided for obvious reasons) with a small stain on your shirt which is usually unnoticeable. Chances are that you would get caught within the first couple of minutes.

Care:

Guys try their best to be caring but come on... they are not designed for that! Girls often tend to care more than what you want them to and often that makes them question every 10-15 seconds about your wellness. If you are down with fever and you let your best friend who is a girl (quite funny to type) know, chances are that you'll end up answering the phone at least 20 times that day!

Childishness:

Almost everyone has some childishness in him/her. The famous quote "There is no point growing up if you cannot be a child at times" is an illustration of that fact. However, the proportion of girls I've observed to be childish is much higher than what I observed in guys!

Talking:

Even the most silent girl is highly talkative within her group. With guys a reserved guy is a reserved guy wherever he is but with girls, a reserved girl acts differently when she is with her friends and when she is in a larger gang.

Possessiveness:

I might be generalizing a bit too much here. But many girls are possessive about their friends and belongings! At least that is my observation.

Gossip:

A girl who stays at home knows much more than a guy who is hanging out most of the day!

Independently dependent:

Girls seem to depend on someone way too much either emotionally or personally but at the same time they easily switch preferences. Someone who was inevitable a couple of years back becomes a good friend today and a good contact tomorrow. At any point, a person who shows a lot of interest on her is always considered the best by a girl! Again, may be I'm generalizing... But that's something I observed out of my experiences.

Emotional handicap:

With the brain being locked in an emotional trap, girls usually end up taking decisions purely out of their heart which in most cases will not be correct. Ironically, even after realizing that they made a mistake, it is next to impossible for them to correct that.

Hypocrisy when it comes to guys:

Girls enjoy guys falling for them but many do not want to reveal that. A beautiful girl almost always confirms that the guys around her are interested in her through unnoticeable gestures. Guys however strong just start shaking at the sight of a beautiful girl staring at them and get caught. But a girl never reveals anything more than a smile at the corner of her lips... Gets hard for the guys to assess her pulse

Stop Lying about How Much You Work

It seems harmless enough. You start with a little lunchtime banter about your 70-hour workweeks. Then you tell your spouse you can’t help with the holiday cards because these 80-hour workweeks are killing you. Next thing you know, at a cocktail party, you’re one-upping the guy complaining about his 80-hour weeks by moaning about the 90 hours you put in.

Yes, it’s the scourge of workweek inflation, ubiquitous among the professional set. Years ago, I used to take such numbers seriously. I would write articles about the injustice of white-collar sweatshopsfoisting such punishing schedules on their employees. Then, at some point, I went to a party where a young man told me, straight-faced, about his 190-hour workweeks.

A week, incidentally, has 168 hours.

People Work Far Less than They Think

And so, standing there with my glass of wine, I had an epiphany. We love to complain about how much we work in a way that has little relationship to reality. Even if you’re working a lot, chances are, you’re working less than you think. That sounds like it would be a good thing — but rampant workweek inflation has real downsides that make us less efficient.

I’m not the only one who’s discovered this inflation. Over the years,University of Maryland sociologist John Robinson has conducted several studies comparing people’s estimated workweeks to time logs. It turns out that the average person claiming to work 70, 80, or more hours per week is actually working less than 60. After I wrote about that finding in my book, 168 Hours, I heard from one consultant who’d analyzed security records from a bank. The employees routinely claimed they were working 15-20 hours more per week than their badges showed they were there. Sure, some did work from home on weekends. But not 20 hours worth.

Inflating Hours Leads to Wasting Time at Work

Partly, the issue is that we’re clueless. Most of us don’t even know that a week has 168 hours, so we’re bad about estimating what proportion we spend working, sleeping, doing housework or any other task. But let’s not discount lying either. We live in a competitive world. If a co-worker is claiming to work 70 hours a week, what incentive do you have to claim less? I’m not saying that no one works 80 hour weeks. But I will say that after looking at hundreds of time logs, I’ve only seen one that topped that amount.

The problem is that all this lying isn’t harmless. If you believe your workplace requires 80-hour weeks, your tendency will be to stick around in the evening past the point of diminishing returns (even if all that sticking around still only adds up to 60 hours). You’ll order take-out and meander from office to office, not doing any work, but not going home either, because the culture says success means staying late. Not only is this pointless, it’s actually a problem for productivity, because as any knowledge worker knows, you get your best ideas when you remove yourself from a situation and let your resting brain do its work. In other words, you’d be better off taking a break.

People Won’t Want to Work For You

And here’s the second big problem. If you’re a manager, you want good people working for you. Inaccurate complaints about 80-hour workweeks scare off people who might be quite willing to work an honest 60-hour week. If you work 60 hours a week and sleep 8 hours a night (56 per week) that still leaves 52 hours for other things — enough time to see your family, exercise and so forth. Knocking these hard workers out of the running won’t do your organization any favors.

Kicking workweek inflation is as tough as kicking monetary inflation (the US went through a huge recession in the 1980s to keep the consumer price index in check). But if you’re managing a team, you owe it to yourself to strike a blow for the truth. Log your time for a few weeks. See what you average. Then make it clear that hanging around to order take-out every night does little except drive up your food bill — and make your organization a less attractive place to work.

The Hidden Cost of Creating an Impression

At the end of the day a lot of business is personal — making the sale, getting the job, or convincing your boss often comes down to conveying the right things about your personality. So it makes sense to focus on how you come across. But according to new psychology research,managing others’ impressions of you comes at a cost — your impressions of them can be skewed.

Researchers asked students to discuss a film with another student who was secretly working for the scientists. Half of the research subjects were asked to manage the impression they were giving, striving to come off as confident, extroverted or smart, for example. The scientists then asked the students to rate these qualities in their conversational partner. The results:

The central finding was that, compared with the control participants, students given an impression management goal tended to rate their conversation partner lower on whichever trait they’d tried to demonstrate in themselves, but not on other traits.

Why should this be? The psychologists suggest that when we focus on others’ impression of us, we adopt “a comparison mindset” that amplifies our own estimation of ourselves in whatever area we’ve fixated on. Our conversation partner then comes across as less gifted in this trait.

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They also found that the skewing of perception only occurred in those whose didn’t already have a firm sense of how they perform in the area they were asked to manage. In other words, people who already firmly considered themselves confident thought no different of their partners when they were asked to focus on appearing confident. Only those who had to think about making an impression they were unsure of conveying misjudged their partners.

What’s the take away here? The scientists acknowledge that more research is needed, but obviously knowing that this bias exists could help you correct for it. If you’re focusing on being confident or smart, it may make sense to pay closer attention to whether you’re shortchanging those you meet in these areas.